A Sexologist's Gift Guide to Valentine's Day 2026
14 gifts I love and use
We’ve barely recovered from the holiday hangover, and Valentine’s Day is already two weeks away.
In this economy no one is exactly jumping at the thought of spending more money again, so I created this gift guide for those who want to give something thoughtful within their budget.
I’ve rounded up 14 gifts I genuinely use and love—things that actually enhance intimacy, relaxation, and pleasure—organized from wallet-friendly to splurge-worthy.
Last weekend, my husband and I turned date night into a bath ritual. We lit candles, played Miles Davis, served ourselves some Cabernet, and dissolved this soak into hot water. Thirty minutes of pure relaxation thanks to mineral-rich magnesium salts, nourishing jojoba oil, and tea tree. It melts tension, softens skin, and is handcrafted in small batches in the US. Pairs beautifully with their Tonic Oil for post-bath glow.
It’s no secret that feeling good in your body builds sexual confidence and stamina. On days we skip the gym, my husband and I roll out our mats for Helen Phelan’s online pilates. Classes run 15-50 minutes, suit all levels, and require nothing but a mat. It’s challenging enough to make you feel accomplished but won’t leave you too exhausted for bedroom adventures later. Use code NATASSIA4945 at checkout to get $10 off your first month.
This is a must-have that my friends and I carry in our purses at all times. One drop massaged onto your (or your partner’s) pleasure zone creates a tingling sensation that amplifies everything, especially orgasms.
Bondage? Role-playing? Anal? It’s all here in The Boudoir Bible, illustrated by artist François Berthoud. A comprehensive, gorgeous guide that gives sexuality in the 21st century the sophisticated treatment it deserves.
Turn each other on, one card at a time. Couples call it date night with happy endings for a reason. There are two levels of 69 cards each (yes, that’s intentional), building from romantic to seriously spicy, featuring stunning erotic art by Brazilian artist Nathalie Edenburg. Full disclosure: I created this deck, but the 5-star reviews speak for themselves. It’s the kind of gift you’ll reach for again and again.
This massage and intimacy oil shaped like an actual stone is genius—it glides on skin like silk, enhancing touch and pleasure. I’ve already reordered mine (it comes in a reusable bamboo canister, which I love). Pro tip: it doubles as full-body moisturizer, but since it’s oil-based, skip it if you’re using latex condoms or silicone toys.
You’ve probably heard that wearing socks increases orgasm chances by 30%. The truth? That study happened in a freezing lab—and being cold is incredibly distracting. So no wonder I’m a winter sex-with-socks evangelist. These Alex Mill cashmere socks are genderless (my husband and I have matching sets), impossibly soft, and the ultimate cozy-sexy accessory.
Maude partnered with Wuthering Heights (premiering February 13!) for this limited-edition kit. Inside there’s a Burn No. 3 massage candle and Oil No. 2 for bath and body—the ultimate combo for slow-burn desire and exploration (very on-brand for Brontë). It includes an exclusive poster and behind-the-scenes booklet for my film nerds.
I was gifted this at a Secret Santa ten years ago and became instantly obsessed. It’s a cult favorite for a reason: clean musk with woody undertones creates a masculine-leaning scent that sets the mood without being cloying. The kind of candle that makes your space feel instantly more sophisticated.
If you’re ready to level up, this is the move. This bundle pairs Cere’s award-winning Enchantment Gel with the Spellbound Stimulator—14 modes of air-wave and vibration designed to work in tandem. What I love about the dual stimulation is how versatile it is: you can explore your partner’s body in multiple ways, or use both sensations on yourself. I’m a fan of building arousal with the vibration first, then bringing in the suction for a more intense finish. It’s thoughtfully designed and worth every penny.
The Magic Wand is legendary for a reason—it’s the gold standard of powerful, reliable pleasure. This waterproof rechargeable version means you can take it into the bath or shower (game changer), and the intensity is unmatched. Whether you’re using it solo or with a partner, this is the kind of tool that becomes a staple.
This is for couples who want to get messy in the best way. The Lovers Art Kit turns intimacy into abstract art—literally. You use your bodies, movement, and a whole lot of paint (12 extra colors included) to create something completely unique. It comes with stretcher bars so you can actually display your work of art. No skills required, just a sense of play and willingness to let go. Perfect for adventurous couples or anyone looking to try something totally different.
Wedge pillows get recommended constantly by pelvic floor physical therapists and sexologists for good reason: they alleviate back and hip pain during sex while improving angles and pleasure. The problem? They’re usually ugly foam bricks you hide in the closet. The Prim solves this. It’s made with memory foam and custom washable linen, with a patented design that actually looks like a gorgeous throw pillow that belongs on your bed. Function meets form, finally.
Wearing lingerie is one of my favorite ways to tap into my sensuality. My husband knows this, which is why silk sets like this are his go-to gift. This one from Fleur du Mal includes a Flutter Thong with a high-leg cut, a Luxe Triangle Bra, and a matching silk blindfold—all in rouge silk charmeuse. The ruffle detailing is delicate without being overly sweet, and the minimal silhouette feels effortlessly sexy. It’s the kind of piece that makes you both feel seen.
This guide is meant to be short and sweet, but if you’re looking for something that’s not listed, drop a comment or hit reply. I love helping people find the perfect gift!
And if you try any of these, please report back. I’m always curious what resonates.
P.S. In case you missed it, last week’s post has been getting a lot of love:
Thanks so much for featuring HPS! Adding some of these to my list...and so pissed I'll be out of town for your event!