The Spicy Holiday Gift Guide
All of the pleasure, none of the bore.
Welcome to Lust in Translation, a newsletter exploring what ignites your pleasure, confidence, and desire—by yours truly, sexologist Natassia Miller. If you’re new here, now’s a great time to subscribe.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a sexologist, it’s that people don’t give themselves enough permission to revel in pleasure. That’s why I love gifting my loved ones a reminder to slow down and be present, especially during the holidays.
As you can imagine, this guide isn’t about the typical presents—it’s a curated celebration of intimacy, sensuality, and ritual.
Whether you’re treating yourself, a lover, or a friend, each pick elevates the everyday into something delightfully decadent.
Erotica: Literary Seduction for Every Imagination
Aurore Literary Erotica Annual Subscription ($69)
Your largest sexual organ is your brain, and Aurore is where I send it exploring.
Within its digital library are over 300 erotic stories—crafted for every fantasy, mood, or curiosity. Some are soft and intimate, others raw and boundary-expanding.
Gifting Aurore is a subtle way to invite someone to explore their desires in luxe privacy.
Perk: 10% off with code NATASSIA
Psychedelic Sex, Taschen ($111)
A vibrant coffee table book that captures the delirious fusion of the sexual revolution and psychedelic art between 1967–1972. It’s the epitome of California’s hippie culture—where free love, mind-bending visuals, and cheeky magazine spreads defined an era.
Perfect for anyone who adores retro flair and wants a splash of playful history in their living room.
Jonvelle: The 100 Best Photographs ($279)
This stunning volume of French photographer Jean-François Jonvelle is a visual love letter to women in all their grace, charm, and intimate allure. Each frame is infused with his belief that beauty flourishes where confidence and comfort meet. This is the book you open to celebrate the simple magic of feeling seen and desired.
Temperature Play: Massage Candles
Temperature play transforms touch into a full-body, sensual experience. The gentle warmth of melted massage oil not only relaxes muscles, but heightens sensitivity—inviting partners to be present, playful and connected.
There are two massage candles I love at different price points:
maude burn no. 0 ($32)
Unscented and formulated with skin-softening jojoba and soybean oils. Make sure to blow out the wick once the candle has melted, before massaging it onto the skin.
Perk: 15% off with code NATASSIA
Kiki de Montparnasse Massage Oil Candle Lavender No. 5 ($75)
A reminder of summer in Provence, this luxe candle is made with natural soybean and coconut oils.
Communication is Lubrication: Intimacy Cards
Wonderlust Mindful Intimacy Card Deck (20% off for $36)
Turn each other on, one prompt at a time. This card deck has two levels of 69 cards each that makes it fun and easy to spark new conversations and rediscover each other, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Pair them with a glass of wine and set aside an evening—wherever the questions lead, you’ll end up closer, more aware, and more adventurous.
“I got this card deck as an anniversary gift for my husband and I. We absolutely love it - great for foreplay ;)” — Maisey L.d.V.
Intimate Devices: For Every Kind of Pleasure
For those beginning to explore the world of pleasure—or who crave thoughtfully designed toys without the intimidation factor—maude offers entry-level favorites that blend simplicity, elegance, and delight.
These pieces are accessibly priced, modern, and made to invite curiosity in the most approachable way.
maude vibe ($52)
Understated, quiet, and artfully designed, the vibe offers three speeds for clitoral stimulation, but I find the gentlest setting is most effective.
Small enough for travel, bold enough to display—this is the perfect beginner’s piece or a classic for anyone who prefers simplicity with sophistication.
Perk: 15% off with code NATASSIA
maude dome ($35)
A multi-textured sleeve that’s all about control. Dome’s double-sided design features soft, stretchable silicone interiors with distinct ridged and beaded textures: one side for building, one for teasing.
Whether you’re flying solo or handing it off to a partner, dome lets you set the rhythm, the tightness, and the vibe, making every session completely personal.
Perk: 15% off with code NATASSIA
maude band ($52)
Uncomplicated pleasure, designed for two. The band is a soft, platinum-grade silicone vibrating ring that slides on with ease, offering steady, focused stimulation exactly where it’s needed most.
With its subtle look and foolproof fit, it’s one of the least intimidating ways to bring vibration into partnered play—a true invitation to shared sensation.
Perk: 15% off with code NATASSIA
LELO Sila Cruise ($149.50)
Unlike traditional vibrators, the Sila Cruise uses gentle sonic waves—no buzzing or vibration here—to coax pleasure through softness. Its sculptural silicone contours invite slow, sensual exploration, building sensation with patience rather than urgency.
As the waves intensify, the crescendo is unexpectedly powerful, making it a memorable favorite I’ve gifted time and again.
LELO Hugo 2 Remote ($160)
Designed for deep, hands-free prostate pleasure, HUGO 2 boasts dual motors, ergonomic contours, and a wireless remote that lets you control vibrations with the flick of a wrist.
Luxurious, powerful, and sculpted for all anatomies—it transforms solo or partnered play into a longer, stronger, and unforgettable experience.
LELO Soraya Wave ($196.37)
The world’s most luxurious rabbit, this bestseller combines ultra-powerful vibrations for clitoral stimulation with a flexible arm that massages your G-spot in a finger-like, wave motion.
Waterproof, sculptural, and designed for simultaneous pleasure, it offers double the sensation for truly unforgettable climaxes.
Boudoir Accessories: An Invitation to Play
For the connoisseur of sensuality, no brand captures elegance and erotic artistry like Kiki de Montparnasse. Their accessories don’t just complement intimate encounters—they transform them.
Each piece is meticulously crafted to invite curiosity, connection, and a heightened sense of pleasure.
Bondage Rope ($268)
Silky-soft, satisfyingly strong—an elegant invitation to surrender and explore.
Lace Veil ($198)
Sheer floral lace for moments of mystery, fantasy, and dramatic allure.
Man Ray Paddle ($178)
Iconic design meets playful power in this sculptural, statement paddle.
Handcuff Wristlets ($250)
Luxe restraints designed to captivate—equal parts seductive and sophisticated.
Vulvovaginal Care
For the past 3 years, I have been using these two Momotaro Apotheca products religiously. While they aren’t exactly sexy, vulvovaginal care is an integral part of intimacy.
No gift guide of mine would be complete without these:
Smooth & Restore Salve ($37)
This tiny jar is my healing talisman. I keep it in my purse and beside my bed for spontaneous moments of care. Post-sex? It’s my non-negotiable for UTI and yeast infection prevention, but I also dab it on burns, bug bites, and razor nicks.
It’s anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial, but most importantly, it’s gentle enough for every part of your body. Plus, a little bit goes incredibly far.
Perk: Get 25% off automatically at checkout
Nourishing Bath & Body Tonic Oil ($48)
I reach for this after every shower to massage on my vulva. It’s a blend of organic botanicals that moisturizes and soothes.
The oil instantly calms any dryness or irritation, leaving skin supple without any synthetic fragrance or residue. If you’re someone who values mindful, pH-balancing essentials, this is a game-changer.
Perk: Get 25% off automatically at checkout
Have questions about any of these picks, or want a personalized recommendation?
I love hearing from you—just hit reply and I’ll be happy to help you find what you’d like.
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Wishing you a very sensual holiday season!